1.11 Podcast Transcript

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That's the truth. And so I can sit here and I can decide that you're not a good and loving supporting husband, or I can sit here and say, I don't know why I'm reacting this way, but I know that my husband is loving and caring. And so there's something inside of me that needs to adjust, not that you need to adjust yourself to the reality that I've created. And that's what I think a lot of the struggle is, is people believe that, well, this is my experience.

31:12
Fantastic. The only person that's true for is you. It doesn't change anybody else. Yeah. Well, the world is what it is around you. You don't have control of that. Right. But you have complete control over your thoughts. Yeah. And how you respond to them. And just quit blaming people. Right. Just to prove how fake reality is, I mean, let's look at the concept of money very briefly.

31:39
Money only holds value because we all agree that it holds value. Because it's not backed by gold or even gold. We decide if it's worth more than a concrete rock. Like it's this is all made up. It's all made up and we have the ability to change our mindsets on what we're going through and what we're experiencing and decide that anything in life is figureoutable if we really want it to be. Well,

32:08
And it's all about perception because I was listening to an interesting deal the other day that was talking about the perception of crude oil and whenever, I can't remember which president it was or who was in power at the time, but they made it seem like crude oil is from fossils, which is why it's fossil fuel, and that there's only a finite amount of the earth. But in reality...

32:36
it will continue to create itself. It's like rain, you know? And so there's not… It's a naturally occurring substance. Right. There's not these empty pockets of the earth because I think that that's the mental image that people have is you have this… … the earth and we're pulling oil out, which is then putting voids, which is then what they're doing. They're injecting salt water and different things in there, fracking. Right. But…

33:01
That's not what it's doing. They're not replacing a void per se because if you were to dig a hole deep enough, water will start just coming up out of the earth into this hole. And oil does the same thing. It's naturally occurring. But because they can make money off of it, they put a supply to it. And it's the same thing with gold. That's why gold is expensive because just like diamonds.

33:27
Because they're so few, they're worth more. That's why it's worth more than concrete. Is because it's a lot harder to get. You can't make gold. It is a natural precious metal. But if they were to come into a giant thing of gold, like yeah, the value goes down. Yeah. That's like when we created our money press. The value of the dollar went down because now they can just...

33:53
I mean, they have just free reign. They print money literally every day. And every day that they print money, money gets less used by less values. Yeah. It's so funny, cause I posted on TikTok and we'll kind of close this one out with this story. I posted on TikTok and we only have like 68 followers or something like that on Dallery right now, cause we're just starting that channel. And I posted about how we trade a lot of services. And

34:22
We exchange time for time because that is something finite that's not made up. And I mean, it is still made up, I suppose. But I digress. And so instead, you know, we've got small business owners that see the value but couldn't afford the CRM. And we decided, well, if we can trade, how about you put our Christmas lights up in exchange, we provide these services back to you. And I posted a video about that, and it is blowing up like crazy.

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Like, I didn't take any time, it was just off the cuff, like I don't understand it. But there's a lot of people that agree with these, with your thoughts, with your mindset, when it's spun in a positive way. Because that video could have been posted in like a, everything nowadays is so expensive, and it just, I can't believe this blah blah blah, and it probably wouldn't have had the reach that it has. But because I came into it like, hey, both parties are benefiting here.

35:19
And because both parties are benefiting, like look at this awesome exchange that we get to have with several business owners. And I think people resonate with the positive mindset. I mean, obviously you've got the negative content that gets a lot of views, kinda like you pass a car crash, you're gonna check and see what happened. But when you stay stuck in that, you're gonna just limit yourself. Yeah. That.

35:46
any last tips to pull out or? I think it's just about my biggest piece of advice is whether you're a stay at home mom, you know, single, married, anything, doesn't really matter who or what you are, like just do some self evaluations. Like if you're not happy with what is going on and not like...

36:08
If you're not fulfilled. Right. If you're not feeling fulfilled and you're feeling like there's something missing or that just nothing ever goes right or you don't ever get what you want and you know, woe is me. Everybody's out to get you. Just do some honest internal reflecting and figure out what is, what is that one consistent thing in your life, whether that's a friend, a family member, a place you go, a church, your job, like whatever that is.

36:38
Do a deep dive, figure out what that is, and then figure out how can you eliminate it if that's what needs to happen. Because you can't, it's not, it's not always possible to say like, man, I really, my friend is such a bad infant, like we were so great, but now, you know, they've gone down this dark path and they're bringing me down with them. I'm going to change that person. Yeah.

37:00
Like you are damaged yourself, like you're in no position to try to seek out this person who is not wanting to be fixed. That's like trying to help an anchor swim. Yeah, and so I think that by realizing that, you can remove yourself. And that doesn't mean that you have to stop loving that person or whatever, but it's like, you know what, maybe we don't hang out all the time. And that family member, like maybe you don't go to Thanksgiving with them this year. Maybe you do, but you sit on the other side of the house. And so...

37:29
removing yourself or removing that negativity that keeps you in this perpetual motion of round and round and round and round. Figure out what that is and then figure out how you can start to change that and whether that's like I said a job, people, whatever. And if it's stuff in your house like these things cause me more stress than joy like get rid of it you know.

37:58
And yeah, because I think that doing that first is going to be more sustainable than like well, what would make me happy is going on two vacations a year? Sure. Like sure, but like let's be real. No, I think it's self-realization and then putting on armor. Yeah. Read books, watch movies, watch videos, watch TV shows that are going to inspire you and motivate you, not drag you down. Yeah. And that's different for everybody. Like you watching my stuff, it's just going to drag you down. Whereas for me, it uplifts and inspires. And so I think just.

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self-actualization and making sure that you are really diligent. Being intentional about your surroundings and what you're ingesting. And be okay to sit in the silence. Figure out, learn how to be okay with not being entertained. Because I think that that's what it is. It is this fear of missing out. It's this, I mean, if you always feel worse after getting off of Instagram, delete it from your phone. If you...

38:58
If it makes you, if it's not adding value and joy, then I would look at figuring out how you can remove that from your life. You know, until you've either became strong enough that now you can enter back into that relationship or enter back into that world. But until you're strong enough to do that, like you can't, like if you're an alcoholic, like you probably won't go to bars.

39:20
for a long time or just be in general vicinity of where people are just openly drinking. If you're that kind of an alcoholic, like you have that self-realization that like I can't, I don't trust myself and I'm not going to put myself in a position to be that tempted for no reason. And so I think it's that way with anything. Look at it from that perspective of why would I put myself in the position to fail. Yep. But.

39:49
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